According to someone I was chatting with recently I am a bossy person. "A very bossy person," to use their exact words.
The reason?
I use "To do" lists.
I truly didn't know that being a list maker made me bossy.
Obsessive possibly.
But not bossy.
I just like knowing what I have to do.
In fairness we had gotten together to organise a social event. I'd pulled out my trusty 'to do' list and I could practically feel the hairs on the back of her neck rising as I read through it.
My friend is very laid back. I am not. We know this about each other and mostly, we love each other and get along nicely. I'm not sure if it was the pressure of entertaining for her, or my pressure on her about entertaining, but the conversation went rapidly downhill after that.
Driving home I had a little think.
I like my kids knowing what they have to do as well. So they have little lists drawn up and each morning and afternoon they tick off the jobs they have to do.
Does this make me a domineering horrible parent?
Am I going to be responsible for them being in therapy somewhere down the track?
Though having been in therapy myself I can only see this as a very good thing.
According to my friend my list making is a sign of being a control freak and someone who needs to get things done.
When the hell did getting things done become a "Bad Thing?"
I like getting things done. I like getting to things on time and knowing what I am cooking for dinner that night.
Needless to say I am very confused.
Bossy and confused.
Are you a list maker?
Do you think this makes you bossy or does the satisfaction of the tick make it all ok?
